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before he was executed he was talking
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about oh well you know I would have
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turned out fine if if it wasn't for that
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porn
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mm-hmm-hmm yeah sure you would man you
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know and he chose at the porn other
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people choose it as the parents other
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people choose it as whatever right they
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don't want to take responsibility for
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their own actions mm-hmm so tell me
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again what was your problem with video
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games well they're they suck away all
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your consciousness you have two things
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that you can be you can be a copy of
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someone else's thoughts or you can be
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your own thoughts you can say your own
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words or you can repeat someone else's
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words and if you're always absorbing
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someone else's narrative there is no you
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you're not there so there's just someone
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else it's just like when you argue with
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people if you're the person starting an
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argument you're creating inverted copies
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of yourself and everyone that you argue
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with I mean they're forced to be
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opposite of whatever you say because
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they just want to win to seem
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significant and they they find it harder
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to become significant by adding to an
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idea instead of combating it and so
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whatever I do you have their say why
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doesn't work and whatever idea you have
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they're gonna tell you what you should
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have done better but what's the ones
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that go to be right well the peermark
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important
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all right so your if your option is to
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to to shit-talk or notice an exception
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those things are easy everyone's a
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critic everyone can see an exception but
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if your idea is to like add to that's
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harder adding to someone's idea is
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harder than finding the exception right
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creativity yeah yeah and so deputy
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nation yeah well in the book Arab the
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one of the first thing I put at the end
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is don't be slave to the devil's
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advocate you know don't be the devil's
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advocate but someone else wastes their
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life being the opposite of someone
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else's idea you be the guy that
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generates the idea and let other people
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invert and and have their lives dictated
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by your narrative and be the first mover
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mhmmm so you know whoever sets the frame
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is the guy that controls the
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conversation and people look at it as
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though it's equal but it's not the guy
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that set the frame is super super super
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important so you know how many hours get
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spent on the internet talking about
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something somebody else got wrong
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instead of trying to build on what
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somebody else got right all right it's
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it's a lot because it's easier you know
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so it's called bike shedding basically
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there's this Commission on building a
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nuclear power plant and what they
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discovered was that if you talk about
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really hard stuff of which building a
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nuclear power plant consists a lot of
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people won't comment and they don't have
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much to say but if you talk about
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something simpler like what color should
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the bike shed be million comments
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everyone's got an opinion on what color
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that bike shed should be and so it's
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funny if you look at my engagement
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metrics on my Twitter if I say hey guys
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what's your the inflation rate in the
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currency be crickets no-one does [ __ ]
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right no no no thoughts whatsoever but
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if I say hey guys what do you think
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about the color on this logo hundreds of
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comments
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that's the budget right there yeah it's
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literally the bike shed and I said well
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like I keep doing it because one you you
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really kind of need peer review to make
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sure that your logo
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is as good as you think it is because
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your taste might be [ __ ] up and no
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matter how good your taste is it just
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might be [ __ ] up once and you don't
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want it to be [ __ ] up on your logo
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yeah so you know it it is one of the
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places where the thoughts of the public
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and in general are very useful a be
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testing and and issues of aesthetic are
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very useful but with another more
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technical things don't matter
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second in marketing that's critical yeah
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it's it's winning or losing the game I
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mean do you want like it matters so yeah
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like so then the end game for me is I
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don't want to die of old age I want to
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die by accident around 600 if that's
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possible which is statistically how it
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will work out if you courageous but
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obviously I'm not willing to die it too
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hard for it so I need technology more
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than most so I need the technology and
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yeah and you want to tend you almost 1
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to 10 like death into a choice
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yeah pretty much why I would phrase it
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why not you know me
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some people might choose I was 600 I'm
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done right you can opt out whatever you
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want it's easy to die dying is really
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easy
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three minutes without oxygen three days
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without water three weeks without food
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any of those will do it and there's all
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types of other easy ways to be you know
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erased from the gene pool it's like it
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the thing is this is something that I
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understand at the intellectual level but
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like at the emotional level I don't care
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as much as I should
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intellectually I know it's optimal play
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emotionally I'd rather play video games
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it feels better right I'd rather read
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about ya I'd read I'd rather read about
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electronics and fast cars and guns I'd
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rather read about that watch the videos
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about that then work on medical research
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so if you look at my youtube suggestions
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you know suggestions for new medical
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research on there a lot of suggestions
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for guns and cars so emotionally I'm
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wired for the old world you know
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actually I know what I
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should care about right so it's really a
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reality is that you don't well I mean I
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did write a couple books you know called
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sy5 how you can survive through science
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that are built to create a movement to
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get people to care about these things so
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I've gone a lot farther than many and
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that's through harsh willpower force
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force myself to make that progress
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well forcing you flying against into the
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pot of yourself though I am we all are
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there you have multiple conflicting
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desires and you only have one amount of
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time and it's the only thing we all have
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the same well at the same time a
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different opportunity we have different
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skill we all have the same time so I've
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been able to do very well to force
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myself to do things that short-term
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don't feel great but midterm and
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long-term are awesome like that's a
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totally get it you know my my strategy
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if you like for this has been primarily
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through meditation is where shall I use
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dissolving one by one all of the stuff
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that's pushing back against the
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direction I want to go in because then
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those those parts like the I the real I
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the me wants to go this away but
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conditioning stuff that I've learned
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from the world my intellect is like
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pushing back right so my goal has not
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been to power up the motor anymore or
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add turbos or any of that I've done it
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from the other end introduces over the
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years and years and years I've dissolved
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the resistance coming back at me and I
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launcher even tell you from my
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experience it actually works
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yeah the effort the effort levels the
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same it's just a case of I'm almost like
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dialing down gravity there's there's
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other things that work like having a
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better peer group or having a better why
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instead of how or meditation were like
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there's there's a lot of [ __ ] that works
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getting a coach like all those things
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work so yep is if you if you spend
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effort changing what you want by adding
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to the greed or subtracting from the
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fear both works you know
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and not everyone operates from just
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greed and fear so some everyone has a
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different value profile so if you if you
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listen to how Tony Robbins likes to put
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it his way isn't the best way like my
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way better but I'll tell you his his is
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that you've got four needs of the
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personality they are certainty and
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variety which are paradoxes you want to
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eat different food all the time
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but you really prefer that the ceiling
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stay up there and if the ceiling starts
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falling down around you you're not going
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to be comfortable speaking anymore so
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you need certainty and you need variety
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ul that you also need significance and
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connection and those are also paradox if
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you come into room and you talk about
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how much more money you got in them and
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how much smarter you are than them and I
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gave this a lot they remove connection
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and they hate you right right but only
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at a distance as soon as they think they
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can work with you they [ __ ] love you
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it's a strategy they treat you worse at
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a distance in the hopes that you'll
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treat them better and then if they feel
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like they can work with you they make
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great sacrifices to do so right so
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growth certainty and variety fight each
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other count connection and significance
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fight each other and then these last two
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which he calls the needs of the soul our
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growth and contribution and they don't
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really fight anything else and they
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don't fight each other and the more time
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you spend there the more fulfilled
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you'll be I don't think it's a hundred
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percent accurate but even though it's
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not accurate it seems like a really good
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belief system to have to get progress
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right well those final two they are
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actually arise from the tension between
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the other two pairs so when you if you
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can get certainty like internal
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certainty and that gives you the power
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to embrace one certainties that's where
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growth comes from that's right and then
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